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How to have a polyamorous relationship
It’s just like any other relationship
When you’re dating, make it clear that you are polyamorous or polygamous from the start.
What a lot of people mistakenly do out of fear is not inform potential partners that they are polyamorous right from the start because they fear rejection before the person gets to know them.
And that isn’t fair for the potential partner. It can also be seen as a form of manipulation.
Whatever your reason for wanting a polyamorous lifestyle, make it clear to anyone you are prospectively dating that you are polyamorous and you would like to explore dating with them.
Whether they’re into it or not is up to them, but there’s no point in hiding your interest for polyamory thinking that your partner will be open to it down the road. Because believe it or not, unless discussed, many relationships are on monogamy autopilot.
Know why you are dating or interested in certain partners.
Ask yourself what type of relationships you are looking for. What are you hoping for the relationships to look like and how are you willing to show up to these relationships?