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The Women in Your Life Aren’t Responsible for You Improving As A Man!

A'alia Zealous
4 min readOct 21, 2021

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YOU have to make YOU better

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“I told him that I didn’t want him talking to other girls while we’re in a relationship.”

“And what did he say?”

“He said that if I wasn’t inspiring him to make a change and do that then maybe I wasn’t the one for him.”

This was a conversation I had with one of my bestfriends about her situationship that she’s in. It made me upset because this is a pattern that I’ve seen all too many times before, and not just with deciding to be in a committed relationship.

I read a thread on my instagram where a woman was recounting how her man started a business but he was very spotty with it. He always put off the important things with handling the business and wasn’t consistent, and when it failed, he blamed her and said that he wouldn’t have failed if she was doing what she was supposed to do and “helping” him.

And there are more comments I hear by many men in everyday life where they reference that their woman has to inspire them to do something and if they didn’t do something then their woman didn’t inspire them enough to do it.

And women are guilty of supporting this mentality.

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A'alia Zealous
A'alia Zealous

Written by A'alia Zealous

I'm a young woman with a lot of shit to say, and sometimes, I don't know how to say it. I have a deep desire to understand myself and the world around me.

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